Removing some toxicity from my life

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I took a step last night in shedding the so-called friendship of a particularly needy, whiny person who sucked up entirely too much of my personal energy. And today I put the final touch on it.

I was speaking to somebody that knows a person M had hounded and pestered the same way she's done to so many people, myself included, and everything matched up with what another friend and I have experienced with M. Basically it boils down to M being a professional victim who doesn't give a shit about anybody's boundaries, even if they've told her multiple times to piss off and leave them alone.

So, I let M have it with both barrels last night because she clearly doesn't seem to understand that it's her behaviour that has caused people to pull away from her. Whenever she's called out on her bullshit she blames her traumatic past, and never bothers to change her behaviour. As if a traumatic past excuses her constant bullshit. If it was a valid excuse then why the hell did I bother working through my own trauma if it's somehow acceptable to keep using it as an excuse to stop being a shitty person? Ugh.

After I told M off last night she suddenly had to go to 'process everything' and that she was having chest pains. Which is her typical stunt when she doesn't want to hear what she is being told. And considering she's been told several times to let others process shit but still felt that it was acceptable to continue pestering them for attention, well, needless to say that I didn't take that very well at all.

I was going to leave it me just unfriending her and then waiting to see what her response would be, but thanks to a good friend of mine I realized that I was prolonging the inevitable and not making the clean break that I needed to make. I blocked M completely because I really don't want to deal with her shit at all anymore. A friendship should never be so draining that it triggers your own mental health issues, and that's the point it had gotten to. Plus, knowing that M was never going to be honest about anything made it all the more frustrating.

But the necessary steps have been made, and if she continues to try to push it with me, she's going to find out what it's like to face a charge of harassment against her. I have absolutely no patience for her bullshit anymore, nor should I!

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