That moment when...

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...a person who only contacts you when they need you to do something, and then can't seem to understand why you suddenly can't do the thing.

I've got an acquaintance who only reaches out to me when she needs something done that for some reason she can't do. Today's request was to print something out for her.

In the past I've gone ahead and done it, but today I decided that I was done. It's one thing when I say I can't do something, but then get questioned about WHY I can't do it. Especially when I tell her that my printer is currently not working. Oh, if I dusted it off and checked the printer cartridges I'm sure it would print just fine, but I'm tired of wasting my ink and paper on stuff for other people. Namely her. Since I've had this particular printer she's had more stuff printed off of it than I have. If work were open right now, I'd print it off there for her instead of wasting my own supplies.

Last week she only showed up to give me some stuff to fax off for her. Yes, I can do it from work, as I'm allowed to fax personal stuff as needed - it doesn't require paper or ink/toner to do that. And the printing always had to be done on the downlow. I'm allowed to print off stuff for myself, within reason, but not for non-staff.

I given up counting how many times her and I have made plans to hang out, only for her to completely ghost me. And when I've called her on it she always gives the same excuse: "I forgot. I knew there was something I was supposed to be doing, but I completely forgot so now I'm doing <insert other thing here> and can't just up and stop." No, but it's alright for me to not make any other plans when I know we're supposed to be doing something. As soon as I start making plans I check my phone's calendar to make sure I've got nothing else booked that day and then promptly book myself in for spending time with her. I don't even know why I bother at this point. *sigh*

I get it, ADHD is the shits. I know from experience because I was diagnosed when I was really young and have had to deal with how it changes as you grow up. I've got my coping mechanisms in place and use them - having a good smart phone makes my life so much easier. I no longer miss out on plans because I've forgotten them. Now I miss out on them when my anxiety and depression gang up on me, but my phone lets know about those plans with enough time to be a mature adult and contact the other party involved in said event.

But I get the feeling that I'm only good enough to be considered a friend when she needs something done that she can't do for whatever reason. Fuck that noise right in the ear.

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