Talked to the ex...maybe it was a good thing? Maybe not?
Today I ran into my ex, and it surprised me that he wanted to talk if I had a moment. As it's a day off for me, I said yep, I had time. I bought him a coffee and we chatted for over an hour.
He actually apologized for breaking up with me the way he did, that at the time he had a lot on his plate, and that he wasn't sure if he could handle how my depression manifests. Apparently he regrets how he handled how he felt and whatnot. And he's looking for a friend.
I told him that I am more than willing to be friends with him (especially now that he's apologized...that's a first for me because none of my other exes have apologized for a damn thing), and that I fully understand that he had a lot going on at the time. He was finally coming to terms that he's got some mental health issues of his own going on, and, as is typical in those situations, he dropped a lot of relationships, including those with friends.
He's also realized that due to his actions that he's lost a lot of the support he used to have when things in his life get messed up. Dude actually was trying not to cry when he and I were talking - he feels so alone right now, and he's going through a huge mess with his former employer screwing him over and accusing him of stealing from the safe at work, despite him not having the code to get into the safe in the first place.
Yeah, there's a lot of stuff going on for him, and he's got nobody for support right now. This means I'm really not surprised that he reached out to me, but his apology gained him major gold stars in my book.
I already know that I have no interest is sparking up a romantic relationship with him again. That ship has sailed and not likely to ever come back into port. But I will happily be friends with him, and I told him as much. We'll see where this goes.
He actually apologized for breaking up with me the way he did, that at the time he had a lot on his plate, and that he wasn't sure if he could handle how my depression manifests. Apparently he regrets how he handled how he felt and whatnot. And he's looking for a friend.
I told him that I am more than willing to be friends with him (especially now that he's apologized...that's a first for me because none of my other exes have apologized for a damn thing), and that I fully understand that he had a lot going on at the time. He was finally coming to terms that he's got some mental health issues of his own going on, and, as is typical in those situations, he dropped a lot of relationships, including those with friends.
He's also realized that due to his actions that he's lost a lot of the support he used to have when things in his life get messed up. Dude actually was trying not to cry when he and I were talking - he feels so alone right now, and he's going through a huge mess with his former employer screwing him over and accusing him of stealing from the safe at work, despite him not having the code to get into the safe in the first place.
Yeah, there's a lot of stuff going on for him, and he's got nobody for support right now. This means I'm really not surprised that he reached out to me, but his apology gained him major gold stars in my book.
I already know that I have no interest is sparking up a romantic relationship with him again. That ship has sailed and not likely to ever come back into port. But I will happily be friends with him, and I told him as much. We'll see where this goes.
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