So.
Tonight I met the person who replaced myself and the other AGM at the hotel. If I'd known he was coming in I might have managed to hang on instead of quitting in a blaze of glory.
I went in with my friend J as the new front desk employee had asked a question about something and nobody had the answer readily available via the chat. And J had to drop me off at home anyway so the hotel was on the way.
The plan originally was to just stop in for a few moments, but sometimes the best laid plans go astray. Besides, I needed to run to the bathroom so I went inside as well. I met the new girl right away, and then met the missus who was brought in to do the laundry due in a large part to how backed up laundry had gotten. Who happens to be the wife of the person I mentioned at the top of this post...and he was still onsite despite having been there since 8am this morning.
I managed to actually speak to him and explain WHY I left, and the circumstances under which I would be willing to return. He is already dealing with getting rid of the predator - I found out more about the predator's history through his wife who has known him for close to 15 years. And it's bad.
I was made privy to a WhatsApp group conversation that happened in the past couple of nights where the predator showed his whole ass to everybody, but, this time, he also clearly targeted my former employer. Sadly, that particular message was deleted, but now it's abundantly clear that the issues with the predator weren't just due to a personality conflict between me and him. Too bad it happened after I left.
I did explain to the guy exactly why I left, and that I'm not proud of HOW I quit, but that I had hit the proverbial wall. I also explained that I could no longer deal with how my former boss would flip on a dime between screaming and then acting as if nothing happened, how she would tell you how she wanted something done and then get pissed at you for doing it the way she wanted while maintaining that she never told you to do it that way. Gaslighting. Pure and simple. I also told him about how I was told to keep my nose out of the situation between the predator and his victim, despite the victim reporting to me in the first place!
I also told the guy that I'm glad that he's there because he seems to be actually managing to get changes in place. I told him about all the things C and I tried to get into place and how we were treated, and so much more. I explained that Colin and I basically split everything between us based on our strengths - he's pretty much doing everything himself, with the exception of the audit because nobody there actually knows how to do it for both sides of the business, and that is the one thing I never had the chance to get into writing before I quit. It was something I was going to work on if I had managed to hold on for at least another week or so before walking out.
As we were leaving I may have gotten emotional. I miss the hotel way more than I realized I would. It was never the actual job that I hated. It was my boss that I grew to hate. It was the uncertainty of what I faced due to her influence that I grew to hate. It was knowing that despite my title that if I exercised any power that my boss would undermine me, but if I didn't exercise the power that was supposed to go with my position I would get in shit. I grew to hate the my boss would try to blame my emotional response on my mental health. My former boss was the root of ALL my issues while I was there.
I told the new guy that once the predator is gone that the only obstacle left to remove if there is any intention of getting me to come back is my former boss. And that if he wanted to pick my brain if he can't get an answer from my former boss that he can reach out to me. He understood everything I told him about what caused me to freak out and quit finally - my former boss has already tried her bullshit on him, and he basically told her that if she kept it up he'd be gone next. And considering that she's leaving for three weeks at this end of this month, she really can't afford to have him quit.
I have been sitting on writing an email to the owner of the business about my former boss to explain exactly why I left. I think it's time to finally get that done and sent to him for him to ponder before my former boss can do any more damage. I mean, she's why the place is falling apart - things don't get fixed when they badly need it and excuses are made about why the repairs aren't done, plans rarely get carried out or change so many times before they are quietly dropped, and just so much utter bullshit.
If everything ever aligns I would go back to work at the hotel. Maybe even as AGM again, but it won't happen so long as my former boss has anything to do with the place.
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